This was originally written to a friend from college, when we caught up with each other, after being out of touch for the better part of ten years.  She had read this blog, and told me how wonderful I was doing, so I gave her the background story, which she wanted to share with others.  I thought you might like to hear it too.

Dear Friend,

Our life has not gone as we hoped it would.  There has been many disappointments over the years, but God is faithful.  He teaches us what we need to know, when we need to learn it (assuming we are willing to learn). 

The Pearls materials completely transformed our marriage and parenting.  When our first child was born, we were on opposite ends of the spectrum.  Manny believed that rules and boundaries would harm the child’s ego, stifle creativity, and limit development.  He thought spanking should be reserved for when the child was really really bad.  Needless to say, our home was a disaster.  I yelled constantly, as I felt it was the only option I had been left with to control the children.

I did not really love my children.  I simply took care of them.  To me, all children were the same.  When I started a daycare, it simplified my life.  I had ten children to herd, instead of two, and herding is easier than driving one or two…all you need is one cooperative child, to bring the others along.

My mom sent us the books, thinking they were home schooling material, on teaching manners, which was something I was doing with the daycare children.  We read through the books, and immediately liked Mike.  He appealed to Manny’s manly side, and showed that proper training will lesson the need to discipline your children, as well as making them more likable.   By then we had three stubborn brats.  We enacted changes, and it took about a year for reform to set in, but it has been ever so worth it. 

 When our forth child came along, everyone commented on how I was raising him differently than I had the others, and questioned if I was going to have a spoiled brat on my hands…no, he is a wonderful, smart, helpful little boy.

That was four years ago.  We have grown stronger and closer.  Manny is an influential man, and the top employee for his company.  Recently he has started preaching (on the side) at a little church.

It is God’s work, not us, and I am so grateful to Him for the mix-up that first got us the books. He knew what we needed!  Without the Pearls materials, I fear where we would be today.

Because God is on the Throne,


1 Response to “How Dreaming Became Reality”

  1. 1 joilene December 9, 2008 at 5:52 pm

    Amen, Sister!
    I’m glad I only had one stubborn little brat (who is now a sweet and gettting-to-be-helpful boy) by the time I was introduced to the Pearls. If I had $1,000 to spend on books, I’d buy a few cases of theirs, and distribute them immediately, to some needy, and looking-for-options, families.

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